Grief and loss

Bereavement counselling and therapy

Grief and loss are natural processes we all go through when we loose someone or something we love and are attached to.

• You might feel completely lost
• You might feel numb
• You might feel frightened and anxious
• You might feel like hiding under the duvet and never coming out
• You might be suffering from anxiety or depression
• You might not feel like eating
• You might feel very empty and lonely
• You might feel suicidal
• You might feel very angry
• You might feel guilty
• You might want to stay away from all reminders
• You might think about the person you have lost every waking minute
• You might want to talk about the person you have lost all the time, or you might not

Everyone’s grief is different

Everyone’s grief is different. Everyone has to grieve in the way that is right for them. People may tell you it’s about time you did this or that. People might cross the road when they see you, or not know what to say.

Sometimes just talking to a friend or relative is helpful, but if you feel that you are struggling to process your grief, seeing a counsellor can be really helpful. Maybe you still need to talk, but don’t feel anyone is listening. Maybe it has been a while and you don’t feel you are improving. Maybe it has been years and you have tried to keep busy and pushed the pain away, but that hasn’t helped. I can offer you a secure base where you are free to talk.

Help through your mourning process

Everyone is different and may need different support through their grieving.
You might need:

• gentle encouragement to face the pain of loss
• the space to explore your pain
• encouragement to release your emotions
• to find security within you
• to work through your anger or guilty feelings
• comfort and someone who listens to you

Unlike friends who often mean well, I don’t tell you what to do. I will offer encouragement and suggest things that may help. If you are also experiencing issues of anxiety and depression, I will help you build confidence and self esteem.

A weight has been lifted

Clients tell me after counselling that it feels like a weight has been lifted. They feel more confident and less anxious. They feel more secure within themselves. They talk to friends and family and they are able to ask for help and support. Their relationships have improved.

My clients feel more resilient and they may have returned to work or hobbies and activities. They are happy to talk about their loss without getting too upset. They aren’t anxious about getting upset. The feeling is more like sadness, rather than pain.

Most clients see an improvement after six sessions, but complicated grief can take far longer.

Do you have any questions or would you like to know more? Feel free to send me a message.

Tracy Bacon
Registered member of BACP